Here is a Quranic verse that can guide us toward understanding how to reconcile between people who have enmity and hatred toward each other. First, a little background. During the prophet’s time, Aws and Khazraj were two warring tribes in Yathrib (now called Medina). Approximately, couple of years before their acceptance of Islam the two clans were hard core enemies and had enormous levels of enmity and hatred for each other. During one of the battles (Battle of Bu’ath) both tribes seemed set to annihilate each other.The Aws were supported by the Jewish tribes of Banu Nadir, Banu Qurayza, and by the Arab Bedouins of the Muzayna tribe. The Khazraj on the other hand were supported by other local Bedouin tribes. During the battle, the Aws and their allies initially had to retreat, but then they counterattacked and defeated the Khazraj. During the battle, the leaders of both forces were killed.
However, after their acceptance and embracing of Islam, both tribes developed feelings of strong love and brotherhood for each other. This unity developed despite their history and long-standing traditions of mutual enmity. Sheikh Moududi states in his tafseer (interpretation of the Quran) that to have such severe enmity turn into deep cordiality and brotherhood within a quite short span of time and to have such enemies unite together so closely was doubtlessly beyond the power of any mortal. Were anyone to depend on worldly factors alone, it would have been impossible to bring about such an achievement. The prophet (s) and his companions witnessed this miracle of Allah when the hearts of two warring factions came together with mutual feelings of love, brotherhood, and respect.
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Allah says in the Quran:
“and joined their hearts. Had you given away all the riches of the earth you could not have joined their hearts, but it is Allah Who joined their hearts. Indeed He is All-Mighty. All-Wise. (Quran, Surah Al-Anfal: 63).”
The simple yet powerful lesson we can take from this verse is that in cases when there is a need to reconcile between the hearts of two Muslims (or parties), we should sincerely pray to Allah, as He alone can guide our hearts. This tip may seem simplistic but a sincere Dua can bring harmony and love to the hearts of the warring parties more than any other worldly tactic. Whether it’s hatred between two friends, brothers, spouses, or any other family members, a sincere Dua to Allah will surely bring results faster and reconcile between their hearts more than any other ingenious plans.
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But this doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t use other tactics to help reconcile between people. Both the Quran and the Hadith have stressed the need for the noble act of reconciling between people. Allah says in the Quran:
…So fear Allah and amend that which is between you and obey Allah and His Messenger, if you should be believers.” (Quran, Surah Al-Anfal, Verse 1)
Allah also says:
“There is no good in most of their secret talks save (except) (in) him who orders Sadaqah (charity in Allah’s Cause), or Maa‘roof (Islamic Monotheism and all the good and righteous deeds which Allah has ordained), or conciliation between mankind; and he who does this, seeking the good Pleasure of Allah, We shall give him a great reward” (Quran, Surah An-Nisaa, 114)
Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said the following (part of a ‘hasan’ Hadith as narrated by Abu Dawood, 4273; al-Tirmidhi, 2433.):
“Shall I not tell you something that is better than the status of (voluntary) fasting, prayer and charity?” They said: “Yes.” He said: “Reconciling in a case of discord…”
In another hadith (narrated by Abu Hurairah and mentioned in Sahih Bukhaari, 6065; and Sahih Muslim, 2559, the prophet (peace be upon him) said,
“Do not hate one another, do not envy one another, do not turn away from one another. Be, O slaves of Allah, brothers. It is not permissible for a Muslim to forsake his brother for more than three days.”
Dua to Reconcile Between People
You can also use the following Dua that the prophet (s) used to help remove feeling of bitterness from our hearts.
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JazaKAllah. Very inspiring.
Allahu Akbar! May we be guided aright, ameen.
JazakAllah Khair. Needed very badly these days. Amazing and disappointing, but Muslims too need to be reconciled with each other.The ‘nafs’ is taking such a strong hold that quarrels and differences have become very common. May Allah Guide us constantly – Aameen
Quite true. It is indeed Allah that puts love between the hearts. Love is a divine blessing, and from what the verse says the world’s riches could not purchase it…it’s priceless.
Jazakallah khair! May Allah guide us all to the right path. Amin
I’m a little confused. Does one have to accept Islam as their religion to have peace with followers of Islam? Or can just living a God centered life be enough? I ask with complete sincerity.
“God centred life”? the idea is if there is a God -which certainly is- who creates us and every thing around us, and then he gives us a free will, to choose his way for our success (by submitting to him as he directed in his own words in Quran) or to do the opposite. In other words, doing any thing else from his clear instruction to humanity in terms of “Islam”, is basically giving importance to our own wishes over his implicit commands, logically it counts indirect rejection of his orders. (Only Allah knows the best).
Hi Gene, Allow me to humble attempt to present simple values from a muslim perspective. Islam as a starting point means “Peace”. Whenever we start to read the Quran, we start by saying “In the Name of God, the Compassionate, the Merciful”, and this becomes a habit in anything that we do. Anyone who submits to will of God, is a muslim. God ask of us “to come to common terms with one another”. Also, that “there is no compulsion in religion”. Safety for the non-muslim living in a muslim country is guaranteed. When living in a community we also have duties towards our neighbours, regardless of religion, and i could go on giving advice from the Quran. Living a God centered life for a muslim, is to lead to a practical life, with duties to our fellow beings, and seeking Nearness to God through our actions. Life is interdependant. Say “hello” to a muslim and you will be pleasantly surprised by their warm hearts. As a start, i invite you to read the Quran.
Also, dear Gene, these Du’ as must come from the depths of the heart and with a sincere trust and belief in the Might of Allah Subahanahu wa Ta’alah alone. If that does not originate from a sincere trust in Him (alone), it would not be accepted by Allah. And Allah is All-knowing, and All-Hearing. He knows your deepest secrets hidden in your heart even if you don’t submit or believe in Him.
Once you sincerely believe in Allah and put your trust in Him more than in anything else in the world (even yourself), you’ve automatically embraced Islam, the path of the Truth, from heart. 🙂
very inspiring for all our Muslim Umma
Thanks you so much i was also in need of this
This is educative! Jazakum lahu aeran!!!
Alhamdulillah thank u. You r always handy with such, when in need. Jzk
Jazakallah khairan. What a good job!
Jazaakumulaahu khayran, May Allaah reward you for the great article. we will benefit from it inshaa allaah
its the need of the hour…. we talk about peace but fight amongst ourselves on small petty issues & shaitan gets a chance to sow the seed of enemity in our hearts aginst our brothers & sisters.
JazakAllah for guiding
Salam 3leykom, I can not read arabic yet please can someone translate that Dua (with the red hearts next to it) into arabic with english letters (transliteration). I would appreciate help from brothers and sisters out there?
Peace and blessings to you all.
Salam
Hey Elly,
I don’t know if you will see this or when you posted your question, but here is the best I can do. (If any other Brother or Sister can do it better please post.)
Allahumma Allif Bayna Quloobina (1)
Wa Aslih Dhata Baynina (2)
Wahdinas Suboolas Salaam (3)
Wa Najjina Min Adhulumati ilan noor (4)
In the word Aslih in line 2 its a hard sounding “h” by the way. And the “dh” in some of the words is sounded by placing your tongue at the bottom of your front teeth.
Hope this helps.
Waalaikumassalaam
Saira,
Jazaka Allah khair for your your kindness in this dawah of transliteration. I appreciate and thank Allah for your kind heart. This is very helpful.
Salamo 3leykom Saira, Thank you so much for providing the transliteration to the above Du’aa, really appreciate it. May Allah grant you blessings and fulfill all your du’aa’s inshallah.
salam
truly inspiring. may Allah always guide to the truth always.
AlhamdulillAh,it is very true that Allah did not left anything untold in the noble Quran, even simple principles of conflict resolutions.
Assalamu alaykum. It’s quite a great job done; as these days, our muslim brothers and sisters develop unnecessary hatred for one another for no reason or whatsoever. It’s quite amazing
JazakAllaahu ta’ala! May Allah swt grant Maulana Maududi Jannatul Firdaus, ameen.
Assalamu alaikum,
very inspiring.If people can understand this, love and affection between brotherhood is more valuable than the money ,pride and egos. May Allah save us from the wasawis of shaitan. Indeed, he is the worst enemy of man kind.
subhanallah, alhamdulillah
Salaam,
Is very good and inspiring, may Allah guide us and make it easy for us and bless you to.
Hi Gene
Accepting Islam is not a precondition to have peace with followers of Islam. Even one does not have to be ‘God centered’ for this purpose. To be God centered or not is an individual matter. At individual level you can see many muslims and non-muslims being good friends. On the international level, you can see many examples of non muslim and muslim countries’ friendship – even those who do not believe in God and Muslims. Conflict has to do something with injustice, hegemony and desire to have empires. At different times, different nations have done that and are doing even now. So instead of looking to religion for peace, we have to think about justice (which is again preached by religion). As for the example of the two tribes, simply, when they turned to Islam they had one common leader, the Prophet (pbuh) who could have resolved their disputes fairly. And of course, religion taught them that they were now brothers, being enemy to each other would to a minimum lower their faith level to a very low level.
Accepting or rejecting Islam is a serious matter. Why? Because Islam tells about a life hereafter – everlasting. This life will be either hell or heaven. So one has to carefully understand what Islam is about. If after understanding that appeals to somebody, he/she should accept Islam – should not reject because of society pressures or because of the religion that one got from their forerfathers.
Thanks Khaik! Good is good. The few things I’ve read in the Quran were beautiful. May peace, love , and grace conquer all.
Jazakallah khairan,very useful , effective and inspiring, may Allah guide us and make it easy for us and bless you too.
Jazakallah khairan, it is very informative,,,,,
Ya rabbul Alamin. Please help us(the Ummah) to behave righteously and guide us all to the straight path,
-Ameen
Thanks a lot. I really needed this dua. It’s indeed the most beneficient Allah’s blessings that I got to read this.
Dear Gene,
May Almighty God guide you to His truth and bring you closer to His desires for all humankind. Continue to read the Quran and God willing, you will find the answers god intends for your life. Much success to you.
JazakAllah Khair. Allah indeed is the One who instills love in the hearts of His creation. This true love will come about when we love Allah over and above everything and everyone else, as He mentions in the Holy Quran: ” And those who believe are intense in their love for Allah”.
Innal Laha ala kulli shai’in kadiiran! Jazakumullahu khairan. May Allah SWT increase our love for Him and for all those He loves, Ameen.
SubhanAllah …..The ummah needs this reminder badly and all humanity!
Jazakallah khairan. Very informative. May Allah bless you all.
May Almighty Allah bless us all for better understanding and knowledge. Aameen!
A very good solution in the light of holy Quran and hadith dua…
Jazaak-Allah khair for your efforts
Undoubtedly only Allah can unite hearts and we must sincerely make dua to Allah SWT, He is the hearer of supplications.
This has come at a time when there is discontent between one of my family members and a member of her family, and I am grateful that I can, not only make dua for them, but to help with such clear words for the heart.
salam. we need to offer this prayer on daily basis to reconcile among Muslim Ummah all over the world and our neighbors as well. JazakAllah khairan.
jazakAllah 🙂 I just loved this subhan Allah..it made my difficulty easy..very influencing article it is
Dear brothers and sisters, aslamalaykom
I have been struggling very hard the last year to save my family from being broken. My husband of 5 years wants to divorce me and I’m truly devastated and want nothing but for him to stay. I have written before but I am still fighting and at this point i want to give up. I pray everyday and make dua everyday, even when I’m not praying but whatever I say or do hasn’t changed his mind. It’s been a while since he’s been sleeping else where in the house and slowly he’s destroyed my heart. I’ve been fighting for so long that I’m starting to think what’s the point anymore especially since it’s only one sided. I found out that he’s been cheating on me and he still hasn’t stopped even though I’ve asked him many times to leave her. I’ve been asking him to start to pray but he won’t even do that. I pray for allah to open up his eyes and inshallah he doesn’t make a stupid move that will he will regret. Please I beg anyone that is reading this to make a dua for my family. I have two small children and to be separated or divorced I feel would be so hard on everyone especially my children. My husband has said that within this week he’s going to ask for a divorce from the sheik. Inshallah by then allah opens up his eyes.
Salam sister,
I’m sorry to hear of what you are going through. May Allah give you strength and patience during this difficult time.
Thank you for the insightful article. Though I am a Catholic, I have taken a keen interest in Islam; though my Muslim and Christian friends may not agree with me, I do see parallels between the two. The significance of reconciliation is the basis of these scriptures in the first place, God is love and so are we.
Eric
Jazak Allah Khair. May Allah accept our prayers and set-right our matters/conflicts with our sincere and beloved ones. Aamen
ASA. I kindly request that whomever reads this to please make a dua for peace in my home and help my brother stop his anger.
He is battling a very difficult divorce and he is taking all his anger and frustration out on us. We are trying to be patient but everything we say is always wrong to him and argues wirh us as we bite our tongues.
Please say a dua for peace in the house and peace/patience/clarity in his heart too.
I have been going crazy and becoming extremely fearful because of his anger.
I appreciate all your help.
Asalamalakum dear sister, I pray that you are well and that by the grace of Allah (swt) your family has found peace. As I commented for the sister above I pray that Allah grants you strength and patience during this difficult time. I am sure that this is a very difficult time for your brother and his spouse and the family. The matter of the heart can bring much pain and anger. I pray that their hearts find peace and make mends. May Allah ease their pain and bring peace for you all. Stay strong sister.
Allah Afiz
Miriem
Jazakal khaira you are doing a wonderful job may Allah reward you abundantly. Pls include me in your daily hadith. Thanks
Dear IqraSense,
Thanks for the interesting, educative & inspiring piece of work. The article is just too appropriate looking into what is going on around the world today.
If Islam means peace & complete submission to the will of God, then, things surrounding & done on behalf of this noble religion should peaceful & of course have the fearness of Allah.
Peace starts within our very selves & then to others. We should love one another. As brothers & sisters, we should not cultivate hatred, envy, malice, jealousy, disrespect & evil amongst us. Each & every one of us should serve as a mirror for another.
Living in peace and resolving conflicts have great rewards from Allah. Blessed are the peacemakers. Peace brings wealth, growth, progress, development, and other goodness one can think of.
PEACE & BLESSINGS TO US ALL.
Assalamu alaikum warahamatulahi wabarakatuhu.
Mohamed Turay.
May Allah unite us as one muslim umma. JZK Allahu, tanx alot
Jazakllah heir -Allah(swt) will pay your efforts on providing this knowledge to many of us inshallah don’t get tired on this and other meaningfull lesson.
Jazaka’Allahukhair; May D Almighty Allah make it a means of Uniting d Ummah…
Amin!!!
Alhamdulillahirobbilalamiin,, i got peace of mind again.. Well, after I totally lost hope and faith in humanity and mostly was about to give up on the idea of even being empath anymore about humans, this amazing brother came in my way and brightened my life again after it all went dark
Tried everything to reconcile between my husband and my parental family. Everything failed. Although my parents are open for reconciliation, my husband isn’t ready to even see their faces. It’s been seven long years. Initially we were in the verge of divorce but I took patience into account for my two kids. Our relationship is good now except he refuse to speak with my family. I haven’t lost hope in Allah’s mercy.
It saddens me to think that my parents had so much beautiful relationship in the past with my husband. For a misunderstanding, my husband got extremely angry and cut off all ties with them. Initially he stopped me and the kids visiting them as well, but now he atleast let’s me to communicate with them. I don’t know if I would be able to get my parents to visit my house, one day. Or they will leave this earth without getting the joy of visiting my new home. Please pray for me brothers and sisters. I am not trying anymore. I just pray and cry to Allah to provide ‘ Insaaf’ to me.