Comments on: Muslim divorce settlements in non-Muslim countries

By: D.M.

D.M. — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 06:33:55 +0000

I think that Muslim women that leave their countries to become stable in another, and then file a divorce, or husband files a divorce, should get more money than the one established by the Shari’a so that they are not left without a good financial support…after all, they did leave their families to follow their husbands, as should be.
Some of the advantages of women in this community provided by The Muslim Women/Protection of Rights on Divorce Act of 1986 state that:
• If the women is the one to stay with the children of the marriage a reasonable and fair provision and maintenance must be made and paid by her former husband for a period of two years from the respective date of birth of such children.
• The amount of mahr or dower agreed to be paid to her at the time of her marriage or at any time thereafter according to Muslim Law should be provided to her.
• And, all the properties given to her before at the time of marriage or after the marriage by her relatives or friends or the husband or any relatives of the husband or his friends, belong to her.

This topic is more complex than any other issues faced by these minority women, and should be given the importance it deserves. Hopefully, oppressed Muslim women (which is a large population) one day could be able to educate themselves on these matters so that they could contribute to their own cause, and know that you are not alone, there are many people that support you.

Here’s a link to a video that expresses opinions on the subjects concerning Muslim women:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MfZjWonDX64

By: Carol

Carol — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 14:27:04 +0000

I have read these respones with great interest. I am a recent convert to Islam although I have always been a monetheist. Unfortunately my husband and I recently completed a secular divorce Islamic divorce is not complete as yet. I have been bombarded over the past 2.5 years will bullying and ignorant understanding of the practice of Islam (which I personally believe to be a very loving and respectful religion i carried out as prescribed in the Quran). However many people do not do this and twist words to suit their circumstances. During this time my spouse consistenly flouted islamic laws of behaviour despite demanding my behaviour to be at the highest level. I lso believed that I was a ‘badge’ and a ticket to the family’s entry to heaven because I was a convert. The crux of my message here – which has not been addressed – Firstly I received no Mahr, my spouse and family decided that any assets I brought to the partnership were his and therefore theirs. My opinions were never respected and neither did they respect each other. Ultimately I have had to ‘buy’ my divorce and find myself in a foreign country releived of the assets I had worked for all my life. My spouse has not worked since I met him. Any comments please. Allah Knows Best.

By: tahmeena sarvath

tahmeena sarvath — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:16:02 +0000

salam alikum ,
if you are not bold enough atleast try to be at the time of marrieage because finally its you whose going to face.and also if are already facing the situation leave everything in Allah’s hand and try to follow the right path and ask alone to allah the solution rather than taking a 3rd persons opinion,as you alone and Allah knows whats best for you!but my humble request dont resolve to divorce its finally your loss.from all angles!

By: lujain

lujain — Fri, 07 Dec 2007 12:53:35 +0000

Slm alkm. Many muslims do not follow the Islamic teachings. If one reads the ahadeeths
of our beloved Prophet(saw)concerning the marriage life or how a man and a woman should
live together, Wallahi he/she will get touched and change their attitude!! Marriage life
is so beautiful with full of love, understanding, cooperation….and the list goes on, only
for those who have strong faith in Allah and follow Prophet Muhammed’s (saw)teachings.
Anyways divorces happen and is allowed in Islam, but hateful to Allah (swt).
Muslims should let the Quran be their guide, why run to non-muslim courts?
Lack of faith and knowledge in Islam is a source of problem. May Allah always guide us to
the truth and fill our heart with strong faith. Ameen.

By: bappa

bappa — Wed, 05 Dec 2007 08:50:46 +0000

Assalamu alaikum
my dear brothers and sisters in islam.
it really pains me that nowadays some muslims always prefer the non Islamic routes
instead of the Qur’an. Allah Has explained every aspect of our life (from birth to death)
in the Qur’an. We can therefore find our guidance in the book.

By: Jasmine

Jasmine — Tue, 04 Dec 2007 06:48:42 +0000

Well Islamically Allah deals with intenions and you have to think of what
Allah considers fair and what we all know our concious say is right
and wrong, after all out concious is Allah’s built in answer sheet to all
of us regardless of what denomination of Islam we practice.

We all get angry in divorces and just want to hurt the other as we are hurt
but we MUST remember that we all have Allah to answer to at the end and will
be taking nothing with us but our deeds as we also came were born with nothing.

As for bitterness left behind well we have to believe that what goes around
comes around and Allah will even it all out as long as we do the right thing
even when it is the hardest thing to do.

This is not something we should even
ALLOW the western courts to deal with it is something we should have the
control and piety to deal with among ourselves.