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		<title>By: asmau mohammad</title>
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		<dc:creator>asmau mohammad</dc:creator>
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		<description>SALAM. THE PROBLEM IS IGNORANCE.MUSLIMS SHOULD KNOW AND SEE MARRIAGE AS A FORM OF IBADAAT NOT JUST A SOCIAL OBLIGATION.MEN SHOULD REFLECT AND FOLLOW THE PATH TRODDEN BY OUR PROPHET [SAW]. BISSALAM.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>SALAM. THE PROBLEM IS IGNORANCE.MUSLIMS SHOULD KNOW AND SEE MARRIAGE AS A FORM OF IBADAAT NOT JUST A SOCIAL OBLIGATION.MEN SHOULD REFLECT AND FOLLOW THE PATH TRODDEN BY OUR PROPHET [SAW]. BISSALAM.</p>
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		<title>By: Ahmad Ali Furqan</title>
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		<dc:creator>Ahmad Ali Furqan</dc:creator>
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		<description>Whenever we muslims choose to follow our culture instead of Islam whether it be the lack of knowledge of Islam or the fear of our community. Then we risk the protection ( abuse and abuser) that is given to us in islam By Allah subhana wata ilah.
 Islam is not a trial religion but an established way of true living. We will benefit from it when we get it right. Many of  us today muslim select our mates base on everything except  our true deen. We must learn that seeking a mate is a way of earning Allah pleasure.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Whenever we muslims choose to follow our culture instead of Islam whether it be the lack of knowledge of Islam or the fear of our community. Then we risk the protection ( abuse and abuser) that is given to us in islam By Allah subhana wata ilah.<br />
 Islam is not a trial religion but an established way of true living. We will benefit from it when we get it right. Many of  us today muslim select our mates base on everything except  our true deen. We must learn that seeking a mate is a way of earning Allah pleasure.</p>
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		<title>By: jane abraham</title>
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		<dc:creator>jane abraham</dc:creator>
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		<description>FYI - DO YOU KNOW WHAT THE BIBLE SAID ABOUT WOMEN?

Women were considered inferior to men:

Genesis 1:27 to 3:24:
In the first creation story (Genesis 1:27) God is described as
creating man, both male and female at the same time: &quot;So God created
man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and
female created he them.&quot; 2 This might be interpreted as implying
equality between the two genders.

But in the second creation story, (Genesis 2:7) God formed only a man:
&quot;...the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed
into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.
Realizing that he needed a helper (Genesis 2:18), God marched all of
the animals past Adam (Genesis 2:19-20) looking for a suitable animal.
Finding none suitable, God created Eve out of one of Adam&#039;s ribs. The
term &quot;helper&quot; has historically been interpreted as implying an
inferior role for Eve, although some modern interpreters believe that
the word can mean a companion of equal status. &quot;...the Hebrew word
translated &quot;helper&quot; is used twenty-one times in the Old Testament:
twenty of these cases refer to help from a superior.&quot; (3) In Genesis
2:27, Adam later asserts his authority over Eve by naming her:
&quot;...she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.&quot; In
ancient times, one was believed to have authority over a person or
thing by naming it.

Genesis 3:16: Adam&#039;s role is to be Eve&#039;s master. The King James
Version (KJV), New International Version (NIV), and Revised Standard
Version (RSV) use the term &quot;rule&quot; to describe Adam&#039;s role over Eve:
&quot;...thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.&quot;
The Living Bible uses the term &quot;master&quot;. The Modern Language Bible
uses &quot;dominate&quot;. By implication, all of their descendents are would
have the same power imbalance between spouses.

A man could marry (literally &quot;become the master of the woman&quot;) as
often as he desired. In Genesis 4:19, Lamech became the first known
polygamist when he took two wives. Subsequent men who took multiple
wives included: Esau with 3 wives; Jacob: 2; Ashur: 2; Gideon: many;
Elkanah: 2; David: many; Solomon: 700 wives of royal birth; Rehaboam:
3; Abijah: 14. Jehoram, Joash, Ahab, Jeholachin and Belshazzar also
had multiple wives.

Genesis 21:10: A man could simultaneously keep numerous concubines.
These were sexual partners of an even lower status than a wife was. As
implied in this verse she could be dismissed when no longer needed:
Sarah is recorded as saying: &quot;...Cast out this bondwoman and her son:
for the son of this bondwoman shall not be heir with my son, even with
Isaac.&quot; Abraham had two concubines; Gideon: at least 1; David: many;
Nahor: 1; Jacob: 1; Eliphaz: 1; Gideon: 1; Caleb: 2; Manassah: 1;
Saul: 1; David: at least 10; Rehoboam: 60; Solomon: 300; an
unidentified Levite: 1; Belshazzar: more than 1.

In Exodus 1:15-16, the Pharaoh ordered the midwives to kill all Jewish
boys at birth, because of the threat that they might pose to the
kingdom. &quot;And he said, When ye do the office of a midwife to the
Hebrew women, and see them upon the stools; if it be a son, then ye
shall kill him: but if it be a daughter, then she shall live.&quot; The
girls, being considered less important, were not seen as a threat;
they were allowed to live.

Exodus 20 &amp; 21: This is perhaps the most misogynistic pair of chapters
in the Bible. A number of verses describe a woman as the property of
her father. At marriage, her ownership was transferred to her new
husband:

Exodus 20:17 lists the last of the Ten Commandments: &quot;Thou shalt not
covet thy neighbour&#039;s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour&#039;s
wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his
ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour&#039;s.&quot; It is important to
realize that a manservent and a maidservant were male and female
slaves. They were not a hired butler and maid. The tenth commandment
forbids coveting your neighbor&#039;s house, wife, male slave female slave,
animals or anything else that the neighbor owns. The wife is clearly
regarded as equivalent to a piece of property.

Exodus 21:2-4: &quot;If thou buy an Hebrew servant, six years he shall
serve: and in the seventh he shall go out free for nothing....If his
master have given him a wife, and she have born him sons or daughters;
the wife and her children shall be her master&#039;s, and he shall go out
by himself.&quot; A slaveowner was permitted to give a woman to his male
slave as a wife. There is no indication that women were consulted
during this type of transaction. After serving six years, he would
leave, but his wife and children would remain slaves of the
slaveowner. Again, there is no indication that the woman was consulted
on this arrangement,

Exodus 21:7: &quot;And if a man sell his daughter to be a maidservant, she
shall not go out as the menservants do.&quot; A father could sell his
daughter as a slave. Even though a male slave is automatically given
his freedom after 6 years, a female slave remained a slave forever.

Exodus 22:16-17: The first seventeen verses of Exodus 22 deal with
restitution in case of stealing, or damage to, a person&#039;s property.
Verses 16 and 17 deal with the case of a man who seduces a virgin.
This was viewed as a property offense against the woman&#039;s father. The
woman was expected to marry the seducer. If her father refused to
transfer ownership of his daughter to the seducer, the latter was
required to required to pay money to her father. The money would be in
compensation for the damage to the father&#039;s property - his daughter.
It would be difficult for a non-virgin to marry.

Exodus 21:22-25 describes a situation in which two men are fighting
and one hits a pregnant woman. If the woman has a miscarriage because
of the blow, the man is punished as the husband decides and must pay a
fine for their act - not to the woman, but to her husband, presumably
because he has been deprived of a child. The woman had no involvement.
Exodus 21:22: &quot;...he shall be surely punished, according as the
woman&#039;s husband will lay upon him; and he shall pay as the judges
determine.&quot;

Exodus 23:17 states that only men are required to take part in the
feasts of unleavened bread, of harvest and of ingathering: &quot;Three
times in the year all thy males shall appear before the Lord GOD.&quot;


Leviticus: This book deals mainly with the duties of the priesthood,
the Levites. Women were not allowed to become priests.
bullet	Leviticus 12:1-5 Quotes God as stating that a woman who has
given birth to a boy is ritually unclean for 7 days. If the baby is a
girl, the mother is unclean for 14 days. &quot;If a woman have conceived
seed, and born a man child: then she shall be unclean seven days...But
if she bear a maid child, then she shall be unclean two weeks...&quot; It
would appear that the act of having a baby is a highly polluting act.
To give birth to a girl is twice as polluting as is giving birth to a
boy.

Leviticus 27:6 A child aged 1 month to five years of age was worth 5
shekels if a boy and 3 shekels if a girl. &quot;And if it be from a month
old even unto five years old, then thy estimation shall be of the male
five shekels of silver, and for the female thy estimation shall be
three shekels of silver.&quot;

Numbers 3:15 shows that a census counted only male infants over the
age of one month, boys and men. &quot;Number the children of Levi after the
house of their fathers, by their families: every male from a month old
and upward shalt thou number them.&quot; Females were not considered worthy
of being included.

Numbers 5:11-31 describes a lengthy magical ritual that women were
forced to perform if their husbands suspected them of having had an
affair. A priest prepared a potion composed of holy water mixed with
sweepings from the floor of the tabernacle. He proclaimed a curse over
the potion and required the woman to drink it. If she were guilty, she
would suffer greatly: her abdomen would swell and her thighs waste
away. There is no similar magical test for husbands suspecting of
having an affair with another woman.

In Numbers 27:8-11, Moses describes the rules of inheritance that God
has stated. If a man dies, his son inherits the estate; his daughter
gets nothing. Only if there is no son, will his daughter inherit. If
there are no children, then the estate is given to the man&#039;s brothers;
his sister(s) get nothing. If he had no brother, the estate goes to
his nearest male relative. &quot;...If a man die, and have no son, then ye
shall cause his inheritance to pass unto his daughter. And if he have
no daughter, then ye shall give his inheritance unto his brethren. And
if he have no brethren, then ye shall give his inheritance unto his
father&#039;s brethren. And if his father have no brethren, then ye shall
give his inheritance unto his kinsman that is next to him of his
family....&quot;

Numbers 30 describes that a vow taken by a man is binding. But a vow
taken by a woman can be nullified by her father, if she is still
living in her family of origin, or by her husband, if she is married.

Deuteronomy 21:10-13 describes how a soldier can force a woman captive
to marry him without regard for her wishes. &quot;When thou goest forth to
war against thine enemies, and the LORD thy God hath delivered them
into thine hands, and thou hast taken them captive, And seest among
the captives a beautiful woman, and hast a desire unto her, that thou
wouldest have her to thy wife; Then thou shalt bring her home to thine
house; and she shall shave her head, and pare her nails; And she shall
put the raiment of her captivity from off her, and shall remain in
thine house, and bewail her father and her mother a full month: and
after that thou shalt go in unto her, and be her husband, and she
shall be thy wife.&quot;

Deuteronomy 22:28-29 requires that a virgin woman who has been raped
must marry her attacker, no matter what her feelings are towards the
rapist. &quot;If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not
betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found;
Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel&#039;s father
fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife....&quot;

Deuteronomy 24:1 describes the procedure for obtaining a divorce. This
can only be initiated by the husband, not by the wife: &quot;When a man
hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find
no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her:
then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand,
and send her out of his house.&quot;

Deuteronomy 25:5-10: states that if a woman is widowed, she would be
required to marry her former brother-in-law. This was called a
&quot;levirate&quot; marriage. Their first-born son will later be considered to
be the son of the deceased husband. The man could refuse to marry her.
Women were not given a choice in the matter. &quot; If brethren dwell
together, and one of them die, and have no child, the wife of the dead
shall not marry without unto a stranger: her husband&#039;s brother shall
go in unto her, and take her to him to wife, and perform the duty of
an husband&#039;s brother unto her.&quot;

Deuteronomy 25:11: If two men are fighting, and the wife of one of
them grabs the other man&#039;s testicles, her hand is to be chopped off.
There is no penalty if a male relative were to grab the other man.
&quot;When men strive together one with another, and the wife of the one
draweth near for to deliver her husband out of the hand of him that
smiteth him, and putteth forth her hand, and taketh him by the
secrets. Then thou shalt cut off her hand...&quot;

Judges 19:16-30 describes an event similar to Genesis 19. Some men in
the city wanted to &quot;know&quot; a visiting Levite. The owner of the house
offered his virgin daughter and the Levite&#039;s concubine so that the men
could rape them. Verse 24 states: &quot;Behold, here is my daughter a
maiden, and his concubine; them I will bring out now, and humble ye
them, and do with them what seemeth good unto you: but unto this man
do not so vile a thing.&quot; The man sent his own concubine outside to the
gang, who proceeded to serially rape her. She died of the attacks. The
man only learned of her death when he was leaving the house in the
morning and stumbled across her body.

The woman was clearly considered expendable and of little value.

2 Chronicles 36:23 mentions the Second Temple which was constructed
after some Jews returned from exile in Babylon. It was rebuilt by
Herod late in the 1st century BCE. One of its features was women&#039;s
court, considered the least sacred area. Next was the court of the
Israelites (reserved for males), then the court of the Priests, and
finally the Temple itself. The courts were laid out in this order to
separate the women as far as possible from the Temple.

During the Second Temple period, women were not allowed to testify in
court trials. They could not go out in public, or talk to strangers.
When outside of their homes, they were to be doubly veiled. &quot;They had
become second-class Jews, excluded from the worship and teaching of
God, with status scarcely above that of slaves.&quot; 3

Biblical references promoting female inferiority:

1 Corinthians 11:3: &quot;...Christ is the head of every man, and a husband
the head of his wife, and the head of Christ is God. (NIV)&quot;. There is
some debate among theologians about the translation of the Greek word
&quot;kephale&quot; as &quot;head.&quot; However that word is universally used in New
Testament translations.

1 Corinthians 11:7-10
The authority of Christ is the authority of God. Any man who speaks
with God or about God in a way that shows a lack of respect for the
authority of Christ, dishonors Christ. In the same way, a wife who
speaks with God in a way that shows a lack of respect for the
authority of her husband, dishonors her husband. Worse, she dishonors
herself—an ugly sight, like a woman with her head shaved. This is
basically the origin of these customs we have of women wearing head
coverings in worship, while men take their hats off. By these symbolic
acts, men and women, who far too often butt heads with each other,
submit their &quot;heads&quot; to the Head: God.

1 Corinthians 14:34-35: &quot;...women should remain silent in the
churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as
the Law says, If they want to inquire about something, they should ask
their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak
in the church.&quot; (NIV) This is a curious passage. It appears to
prohibit all talking by women during services. But it contradicts
verse 11:5, in which St. Paul states that women can actively pray and
prophesy during services.

Many theologians have concluded that verses 14:33b to 36 are a later
addition, added by an unknown counterfeiter with little talent at
forgery. Bible scholar, Hans Conzelmann, comments on these three and a
half verses: &quot;Moreover, there are peculiarities of linguistic usage,
and of thought. [within them].&quot; 6 If they are removed, then Verse 33a
merges well with Verse 37 in a seamless transition. Since they were a
later forgery, they do not fulfill the basic requirement to be
considered inerrant: they were not in the original manuscript written
by Paul.

Ephesians 5:22-24: &quot;Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For
the husband is the head of the wife...wives should submit to their
husbands in everything.&quot; (NIV)

1 Timothy; various passages: Conservative theologians date this
&quot;pastoral epistle&quot; as having being written prior to 65 CE, and assign
its authorship to Paul. Liberal theologians generally believe that it
was written by an unknown author during the first half of the second
century, a half-century or longer after St. Paul&#039;s execution. If the
latter is true then the epistle&#039;s many passages reflecting female
inferiority can be attributed to a gradual reinstatement of
patriarchal authority by the early Church. Some of these passages are:

1 Timothy 2:11-15:&quot;A woman should learn in quietness and full
submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over
a man; she must be silent...&quot; (NIV) Some Biblical scholars believe
that woman and man should be replaced by wife and husband in the above
passage. This would mean that the passage would not refer to women
teaching men in the church, but rather wives teaching their husbands
within the home. 5

1 Timothy 3:2: &quot;Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband
of but one wife...&quot; (NIV) This would seem to imply that all overseers
(bishops) must be male.

1 Timothy 3:8: &quot;Deacons likewise, are to be men worthy of respect,
sincere...&quot; (NIV)
bullet	Titus 1:6: &quot;An elder must be blameless, a husband of but one
wife&quot; (NIV). Women are apparently excluded from the position of elder
or bishop.

Titus 2:4: &quot;...train the younger women...to be subject to their
husbands.&quot; There is no indication of equal power sharing in marriage.
1 Peter 3:7: Women are referred to as &quot;the weaker vessel&quot; in
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>FYI &#8211; DO YOU KNOW WHAT THE BIBLE SAID ABOUT WOMEN?</p>
<p>Women were considered inferior to men:</p>
<p>Genesis 1:27 to 3:24:<br />
In the first creation story (Genesis 1:27) God is described as<br />
creating man, both male and female at the same time: &#8220;So God created<br />
man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and<br />
female created he them.&#8221; 2 This might be interpreted as implying<br />
equality between the two genders.</p>
<p>But in the second creation story, (Genesis 2:7) God formed only a man:<br />
&#8220;&#8230;the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed<br />
into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.<br />
Realizing that he needed a helper (Genesis 2:18), God marched all of<br />
the animals past Adam (Genesis 2:19-20) looking for a suitable animal.<br />
Finding none suitable, God created Eve out of one of Adam&#8217;s ribs. The<br />
term &#8220;helper&#8221; has historically been interpreted as implying an<br />
inferior role for Eve, although some modern interpreters believe that<br />
the word can mean a companion of equal status. &#8220;&#8230;the Hebrew word<br />
translated &#8220;helper&#8221; is used twenty-one times in the Old Testament:<br />
twenty of these cases refer to help from a superior.&#8221; (3) In Genesis<br />
2:27, Adam later asserts his authority over Eve by naming her:<br />
&#8220;&#8230;she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.&#8221; In<br />
ancient times, one was believed to have authority over a person or<br />
thing by naming it.</p>
<p>Genesis 3:16: Adam&#8217;s role is to be Eve&#8217;s master. The King James<br />
Version (KJV), New International Version (NIV), and Revised Standard<br />
Version (RSV) use the term &#8220;rule&#8221; to describe Adam&#8217;s role over Eve:<br />
&#8220;&#8230;thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.&#8221;<br />
The Living Bible uses the term &#8220;master&#8221;. The Modern Language Bible<br />
uses &#8220;dominate&#8221;. By implication, all of their descendents are would<br />
have the same power imbalance between spouses.</p>
<p>A man could marry (literally &#8220;become the master of the woman&#8221;) as<br />
often as he desired. In Genesis 4:19, Lamech became the first known<br />
polygamist when he took two wives. Subsequent men who took multiple<br />
wives included: Esau with 3 wives; Jacob: 2; Ashur: 2; Gideon: many;<br />
Elkanah: 2; David: many; Solomon: 700 wives of royal birth; Rehaboam:<br />
3; Abijah: 14. Jehoram, Joash, Ahab, Jeholachin and Belshazzar also<br />
had multiple wives.</p>
<p>Genesis 21:10: A man could simultaneously keep numerous concubines.<br />
These were sexual partners of an even lower status than a wife was. As<br />
implied in this verse she could be dismissed when no longer needed:<br />
Sarah is recorded as saying: &#8220;&#8230;Cast out this bondwoman and her son:<br />
for the son of this bondwoman shall not be heir with my son, even with<br />
Isaac.&#8221; Abraham had two concubines; Gideon: at least 1; David: many;<br />
Nahor: 1; Jacob: 1; Eliphaz: 1; Gideon: 1; Caleb: 2; Manassah: 1;<br />
Saul: 1; David: at least 10; Rehoboam: 60; Solomon: 300; an<br />
unidentified Levite: 1; Belshazzar: more than 1.</p>
<p>In Exodus 1:15-16, the Pharaoh ordered the midwives to kill all Jewish<br />
boys at birth, because of the threat that they might pose to the<br />
kingdom. &#8220;And he said, When ye do the office of a midwife to the<br />
Hebrew women, and see them upon the stools; if it be a son, then ye<br />
shall kill him: but if it be a daughter, then she shall live.&#8221; The<br />
girls, being considered less important, were not seen as a threat;<br />
they were allowed to live.</p>
<p>Exodus 20 &amp; 21: This is perhaps the most misogynistic pair of chapters<br />
in the Bible. A number of verses describe a woman as the property of<br />
her father. At marriage, her ownership was transferred to her new<br />
husband:</p>
<p>Exodus 20:17 lists the last of the Ten Commandments: &#8220;Thou shalt not<br />
covet thy neighbour&#8217;s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour&#8217;s<br />
wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his<br />
ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour&#8217;s.&#8221; It is important to<br />
realize that a manservent and a maidservant were male and female<br />
slaves. They were not a hired butler and maid. The tenth commandment<br />
forbids coveting your neighbor&#8217;s house, wife, male slave female slave,<br />
animals or anything else that the neighbor owns. The wife is clearly<br />
regarded as equivalent to a piece of property.</p>
<p>Exodus 21:2-4: &#8220;If thou buy an Hebrew servant, six years he shall<br />
serve: and in the seventh he shall go out free for nothing&#8230;.If his<br />
master have given him a wife, and she have born him sons or daughters;<br />
the wife and her children shall be her master&#8217;s, and he shall go out<br />
by himself.&#8221; A slaveowner was permitted to give a woman to his male<br />
slave as a wife. There is no indication that women were consulted<br />
during this type of transaction. After serving six years, he would<br />
leave, but his wife and children would remain slaves of the<br />
slaveowner. Again, there is no indication that the woman was consulted<br />
on this arrangement,</p>
<p>Exodus 21:7: &#8220;And if a man sell his daughter to be a maidservant, she<br />
shall not go out as the menservants do.&#8221; A father could sell his<br />
daughter as a slave. Even though a male slave is automatically given<br />
his freedom after 6 years, a female slave remained a slave forever.</p>
<p>Exodus 22:16-17: The first seventeen verses of Exodus 22 deal with<br />
restitution in case of stealing, or damage to, a person&#8217;s property.<br />
Verses 16 and 17 deal with the case of a man who seduces a virgin.<br />
This was viewed as a property offense against the woman&#8217;s father. The<br />
woman was expected to marry the seducer. If her father refused to<br />
transfer ownership of his daughter to the seducer, the latter was<br />
required to required to pay money to her father. The money would be in<br />
compensation for the damage to the father&#8217;s property &#8211; his daughter.<br />
It would be difficult for a non-virgin to marry.</p>
<p>Exodus 21:22-25 describes a situation in which two men are fighting<br />
and one hits a pregnant woman. If the woman has a miscarriage because<br />
of the blow, the man is punished as the husband decides and must pay a<br />
fine for their act &#8211; not to the woman, but to her husband, presumably<br />
because he has been deprived of a child. The woman had no involvement.<br />
Exodus 21:22: &#8220;&#8230;he shall be surely punished, according as the<br />
woman&#8217;s husband will lay upon him; and he shall pay as the judges<br />
determine.&#8221;</p>
<p>Exodus 23:17 states that only men are required to take part in the<br />
feasts of unleavened bread, of harvest and of ingathering: &#8220;Three<br />
times in the year all thy males shall appear before the Lord GOD.&#8221;</p>
<p>Leviticus: This book deals mainly with the duties of the priesthood,<br />
the Levites. Women were not allowed to become priests.<br />
bullet	Leviticus 12:1-5 Quotes God as stating that a woman who has<br />
given birth to a boy is ritually unclean for 7 days. If the baby is a<br />
girl, the mother is unclean for 14 days. &#8220;If a woman have conceived<br />
seed, and born a man child: then she shall be unclean seven days&#8230;But<br />
if she bear a maid child, then she shall be unclean two weeks&#8230;&#8221; It<br />
would appear that the act of having a baby is a highly polluting act.<br />
To give birth to a girl is twice as polluting as is giving birth to a<br />
boy.</p>
<p>Leviticus 27:6 A child aged 1 month to five years of age was worth 5<br />
shekels if a boy and 3 shekels if a girl. &#8220;And if it be from a month<br />
old even unto five years old, then thy estimation shall be of the male<br />
five shekels of silver, and for the female thy estimation shall be<br />
three shekels of silver.&#8221;</p>
<p>Numbers 3:15 shows that a census counted only male infants over the<br />
age of one month, boys and men. &#8220;Number the children of Levi after the<br />
house of their fathers, by their families: every male from a month old<br />
and upward shalt thou number them.&#8221; Females were not considered worthy<br />
of being included.</p>
<p>Numbers 5:11-31 describes a lengthy magical ritual that women were<br />
forced to perform if their husbands suspected them of having had an<br />
affair. A priest prepared a potion composed of holy water mixed with<br />
sweepings from the floor of the tabernacle. He proclaimed a curse over<br />
the potion and required the woman to drink it. If she were guilty, she<br />
would suffer greatly: her abdomen would swell and her thighs waste<br />
away. There is no similar magical test for husbands suspecting of<br />
having an affair with another woman.</p>
<p>In Numbers 27:8-11, Moses describes the rules of inheritance that God<br />
has stated. If a man dies, his son inherits the estate; his daughter<br />
gets nothing. Only if there is no son, will his daughter inherit. If<br />
there are no children, then the estate is given to the man&#8217;s brothers;<br />
his sister(s) get nothing. If he had no brother, the estate goes to<br />
his nearest male relative. &#8220;&#8230;If a man die, and have no son, then ye<br />
shall cause his inheritance to pass unto his daughter. And if he have<br />
no daughter, then ye shall give his inheritance unto his brethren. And<br />
if he have no brethren, then ye shall give his inheritance unto his<br />
father&#8217;s brethren. And if his father have no brethren, then ye shall<br />
give his inheritance unto his kinsman that is next to him of his<br />
family&#8230;.&#8221;</p>
<p>Numbers 30 describes that a vow taken by a man is binding. But a vow<br />
taken by a woman can be nullified by her father, if she is still<br />
living in her family of origin, or by her husband, if she is married.</p>
<p>Deuteronomy 21:10-13 describes how a soldier can force a woman captive<br />
to marry him without regard for her wishes. &#8220;When thou goest forth to<br />
war against thine enemies, and the LORD thy God hath delivered them<br />
into thine hands, and thou hast taken them captive, And seest among<br />
the captives a beautiful woman, and hast a desire unto her, that thou<br />
wouldest have her to thy wife; Then thou shalt bring her home to thine<br />
house; and she shall shave her head, and pare her nails; And she shall<br />
put the raiment of her captivity from off her, and shall remain in<br />
thine house, and bewail her father and her mother a full month: and<br />
after that thou shalt go in unto her, and be her husband, and she<br />
shall be thy wife.&#8221;</p>
<p>Deuteronomy 22:28-29 requires that a virgin woman who has been raped<br />
must marry her attacker, no matter what her feelings are towards the<br />
rapist. &#8220;If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not<br />
betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found;<br />
Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel&#8217;s father<br />
fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife&#8230;.&#8221;</p>
<p>Deuteronomy 24:1 describes the procedure for obtaining a divorce. This<br />
can only be initiated by the husband, not by the wife: &#8220;When a man<br />
hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find<br />
no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her:<br />
then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand,<br />
and send her out of his house.&#8221;</p>
<p>Deuteronomy 25:5-10: states that if a woman is widowed, she would be<br />
required to marry her former brother-in-law. This was called a<br />
&#8220;levirate&#8221; marriage. Their first-born son will later be considered to<br />
be the son of the deceased husband. The man could refuse to marry her.<br />
Women were not given a choice in the matter. &#8221; If brethren dwell<br />
together, and one of them die, and have no child, the wife of the dead<br />
shall not marry without unto a stranger: her husband&#8217;s brother shall<br />
go in unto her, and take her to him to wife, and perform the duty of<br />
an husband&#8217;s brother unto her.&#8221;</p>
<p>Deuteronomy 25:11: If two men are fighting, and the wife of one of<br />
them grabs the other man&#8217;s testicles, her hand is to be chopped off.<br />
There is no penalty if a male relative were to grab the other man.<br />
&#8220;When men strive together one with another, and the wife of the one<br />
draweth near for to deliver her husband out of the hand of him that<br />
smiteth him, and putteth forth her hand, and taketh him by the<br />
secrets. Then thou shalt cut off her hand&#8230;&#8221;</p>
<p>Judges 19:16-30 describes an event similar to Genesis 19. Some men in<br />
the city wanted to &#8220;know&#8221; a visiting Levite. The owner of the house<br />
offered his virgin daughter and the Levite&#8217;s concubine so that the men<br />
could rape them. Verse 24 states: &#8220;Behold, here is my daughter a<br />
maiden, and his concubine; them I will bring out now, and humble ye<br />
them, and do with them what seemeth good unto you: but unto this man<br />
do not so vile a thing.&#8221; The man sent his own concubine outside to the<br />
gang, who proceeded to serially rape her. She died of the attacks. The<br />
man only learned of her death when he was leaving the house in the<br />
morning and stumbled across her body.</p>
<p>The woman was clearly considered expendable and of little value.</p>
<p>2 Chronicles 36:23 mentions the Second Temple which was constructed<br />
after some Jews returned from exile in Babylon. It was rebuilt by<br />
Herod late in the 1st century BCE. One of its features was women&#8217;s<br />
court, considered the least sacred area. Next was the court of the<br />
Israelites (reserved for males), then the court of the Priests, and<br />
finally the Temple itself. The courts were laid out in this order to<br />
separate the women as far as possible from the Temple.</p>
<p>During the Second Temple period, women were not allowed to testify in<br />
court trials. They could not go out in public, or talk to strangers.<br />
When outside of their homes, they were to be doubly veiled. &#8220;They had<br />
become second-class Jews, excluded from the worship and teaching of<br />
God, with status scarcely above that of slaves.&#8221; 3</p>
<p>Biblical references promoting female inferiority:</p>
<p>1 Corinthians 11:3: &#8220;&#8230;Christ is the head of every man, and a husband<br />
the head of his wife, and the head of Christ is God. (NIV)&#8221;. There is<br />
some debate among theologians about the translation of the Greek word<br />
&#8220;kephale&#8221; as &#8220;head.&#8221; However that word is universally used in New<br />
Testament translations.</p>
<p>1 Corinthians 11:7-10<br />
The authority of Christ is the authority of God. Any man who speaks<br />
with God or about God in a way that shows a lack of respect for the<br />
authority of Christ, dishonors Christ. In the same way, a wife who<br />
speaks with God in a way that shows a lack of respect for the<br />
authority of her husband, dishonors her husband. Worse, she dishonors<br />
herself—an ugly sight, like a woman with her head shaved. This is<br />
basically the origin of these customs we have of women wearing head<br />
coverings in worship, while men take their hats off. By these symbolic<br />
acts, men and women, who far too often butt heads with each other,<br />
submit their &#8220;heads&#8221; to the Head: God.</p>
<p>1 Corinthians 14:34-35: &#8220;&#8230;women should remain silent in the<br />
churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as<br />
the Law says, If they want to inquire about something, they should ask<br />
their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak<br />
in the church.&#8221; (NIV) This is a curious passage. It appears to<br />
prohibit all talking by women during services. But it contradicts<br />
verse 11:5, in which St. Paul states that women can actively pray and<br />
prophesy during services.</p>
<p>Many theologians have concluded that verses 14:33b to 36 are a later<br />
addition, added by an unknown counterfeiter with little talent at<br />
forgery. Bible scholar, Hans Conzelmann, comments on these three and a<br />
half verses: &#8220;Moreover, there are peculiarities of linguistic usage,<br />
and of thought. [within them].&#8221; 6 If they are removed, then Verse 33a<br />
merges well with Verse 37 in a seamless transition. Since they were a<br />
later forgery, they do not fulfill the basic requirement to be<br />
considered inerrant: they were not in the original manuscript written<br />
by Paul.</p>
<p>Ephesians 5:22-24: &#8220;Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For<br />
the husband is the head of the wife&#8230;wives should submit to their<br />
husbands in everything.&#8221; (NIV)</p>
<p>1 Timothy; various passages: Conservative theologians date this<br />
&#8220;pastoral epistle&#8221; as having being written prior to 65 CE, and assign<br />
its authorship to Paul. Liberal theologians generally believe that it<br />
was written by an unknown author during the first half of the second<br />
century, a half-century or longer after St. Paul&#8217;s execution. If the<br />
latter is true then the epistle&#8217;s many passages reflecting female<br />
inferiority can be attributed to a gradual reinstatement of<br />
patriarchal authority by the early Church. Some of these passages are:</p>
<p>1 Timothy 2:11-15:&#8221;A woman should learn in quietness and full<br />
submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over<br />
a man; she must be silent&#8230;&#8221; (NIV) Some Biblical scholars believe<br />
that woman and man should be replaced by wife and husband in the above<br />
passage. This would mean that the passage would not refer to women<br />
teaching men in the church, but rather wives teaching their husbands<br />
within the home. 5</p>
<p>1 Timothy 3:2: &#8220;Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband<br />
of but one wife&#8230;&#8221; (NIV) This would seem to imply that all overseers<br />
(bishops) must be male.</p>
<p>1 Timothy 3:8: &#8220;Deacons likewise, are to be men worthy of respect,<br />
sincere&#8230;&#8221; (NIV)<br />
bullet	Titus 1:6: &#8220;An elder must be blameless, a husband of but one<br />
wife&#8221; (NIV). Women are apparently excluded from the position of elder<br />
or bishop.</p>
<p>Titus 2:4: &#8220;&#8230;train the younger women&#8230;to be subject to their<br />
husbands.&#8221; There is no indication of equal power sharing in marriage.<br />
1 Peter 3:7: Women are referred to as &#8220;the weaker vessel&#8221; in<br />
comparison to their husbands</p>
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		<title>By: Sarah Ouadghiri</title>
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		<dc:creator>Sarah Ouadghiri</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Jan 2008 16:50:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I was saddened by this article but not surprised.  As a convert to Islam, it took me years to get beyond the generalized abuse of women committed by men who happen to be Muslims.  These men claim to be Muslims but instead of worshipping Allah, they worship their culture and use our religion to cover up their abuse and failure to follow the Sunnah of the Prophet and, as a direct result, give Islam a bad name.  This has got to stop.  I am sick and tired of listening to horror story after horror story of women being abused by their husbands who then claim that they have a right to do this because of Islam.  Believe me, I personally know of at least two women who have undergone years of abuse by their husbands who claim it is their right to behave this way because women should obey their husbands.  This is totally wrong, women should obey Allah first and make no partners with Allah - including their husbands.  This is why this has been allowed to go on for so long because women have been taught to worship their husbands right next to Allah.  Ultimately, this is a shirk practice which has no place in our religion.  As long as this culture is allowed to pass itself off as our religion, we will never have the success that Allah wants for us.  We have got to clean up our own backyard before Allah will allow us to be the leaders that we ultimately are supposed to be.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I was saddened by this article but not surprised.  As a convert to Islam, it took me years to get beyond the generalized abuse of women committed by men who happen to be Muslims.  These men claim to be Muslims but instead of worshipping Allah, they worship their culture and use our religion to cover up their abuse and failure to follow the Sunnah of the Prophet and, as a direct result, give Islam a bad name.  This has got to stop.  I am sick and tired of listening to horror story after horror story of women being abused by their husbands who then claim that they have a right to do this because of Islam.  Believe me, I personally know of at least two women who have undergone years of abuse by their husbands who claim it is their right to behave this way because women should obey their husbands.  This is totally wrong, women should obey Allah first and make no partners with Allah &#8211; including their husbands.  This is why this has been allowed to go on for so long because women have been taught to worship their husbands right next to Allah.  Ultimately, this is a shirk practice which has no place in our religion.  As long as this culture is allowed to pass itself off as our religion, we will never have the success that Allah wants for us.  We have got to clean up our own backyard before Allah will allow us to be the leaders that we ultimately are supposed to be.</p>
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		<title>By: G.A.Moaj Baloch</title>
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		<dc:creator>G.A.Moaj Baloch</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 19 Jan 2008 10:38:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I have gone through all the commentaries made by my brothers and sister on prevalent abuse against womenfolk throughout the world, whether Muslim or non Muslim. Since I am a Muslim and it obligatory to say some thing on the topic keeping in view &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.hilalplaza.com&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;Islamic&lt;/a&gt; point of view. In Islam rights and duties concerning women are clearly stated. It would be wastage of time hammer on these again and again. We have amalgamated cultural values with Islam. We require to filter these unislamic culture norms from the Islamic practices. For example a custom prevalent in Baluchistan province of Pakistan is that of selling and buying of women for the purpose of marriage. This cultural brutality has been given the umbrella of Islam by saying that the amount so received is returned in the shape of dowry to the bride. The imbalance in the value of dowry so given to bride and the amount paid to the parents of the bride clearly speaks of this anamoly.This custom is called as ”wolver” and ”Lab”.
The other unislamic culture value prevalent in Baloch tribes in Balochistan is that of ”Wata Sata”. According to this custom girls are married in exchange of girls for marriage. In case no appropriate match is there in one side, inappropriate match is validated. I have personally seen 13 years old girls married with 65 years old men in return of his daughter . This custom is also prevalent in Sind province and southern Punjab. In kashmore district of Sind, there is a baloch tribe where women are not allowed to wear shoes lest they will run away with their fiancés. Though this vice has been curtailed a lot, yet its remnants are still there. In Sind province of Pakistan in various landlord families women are married with Quran so as their land may remain intact. Simultaneously, care is taken to keep the girls with in families so as the properties are not devided.In such case even the incompetent and lunatics are made the husbands of highly qualified girls. In Punjab province of Pakistan efforts are made get the legal rights of ownership are transferred to own family members before the girl is married out.
Non of these vices are correct according to Islamic Shariah. As these all are practiced by Muslims, the ignorant hold Islam responsible. The fact is that Islam itself curse such people.Thes are only the Muslim for name. They have nothing to do with Islam. It is suggested that social welfare organizations and the NGO’s working for the betterment of womenfolk should make a drive to literate the people against these social evils. Practical efforts are required instead of lip services and seminars in highly paid hotel galleries. Ghulam Abbas Moaj</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have gone through all the commentaries made by my brothers and sister on prevalent abuse against womenfolk throughout the world, whether Muslim or non Muslim. Since I am a Muslim and it obligatory to say some thing on the topic keeping in view <a href="http://www.hilalplaza.com" rel="nofollow">Islamic</a> point of view. In Islam rights and duties concerning women are clearly stated. It would be wastage of time hammer on these again and again. We have amalgamated cultural values with Islam. We require to filter these unislamic culture norms from the Islamic practices. For example a custom prevalent in Baluchistan province of Pakistan is that of selling and buying of women for the purpose of marriage. This cultural brutality has been given the umbrella of Islam by saying that the amount so received is returned in the shape of dowry to the bride. The imbalance in the value of dowry so given to bride and the amount paid to the parents of the bride clearly speaks of this anamoly.This custom is called as ”wolver” and ”Lab”.<br />
The other unislamic culture value prevalent in Baloch tribes in Balochistan is that of ”Wata Sata”. According to this custom girls are married in exchange of girls for marriage. In case no appropriate match is there in one side, inappropriate match is validated. I have personally seen 13 years old girls married with 65 years old men in return of his daughter . This custom is also prevalent in Sind province and southern Punjab. In kashmore district of Sind, there is a baloch tribe where women are not allowed to wear shoes lest they will run away with their fiancés. Though this vice has been curtailed a lot, yet its remnants are still there. In Sind province of Pakistan in various landlord families women are married with Quran so as their land may remain intact. Simultaneously, care is taken to keep the girls with in families so as the properties are not devided.In such case even the incompetent and lunatics are made the husbands of highly qualified girls. In Punjab province of Pakistan efforts are made get the legal rights of ownership are transferred to own family members before the girl is married out.<br />
Non of these vices are correct according to Islamic Shariah. As these all are practiced by Muslims, the ignorant hold Islam responsible. The fact is that Islam itself curse such people.Thes are only the Muslim for name. They have nothing to do with Islam. It is suggested that social welfare organizations and the NGO’s working for the betterment of womenfolk should make a drive to literate the people against these social evils. Practical efforts are required instead of lip services and seminars in highly paid hotel galleries. Ghulam Abbas Moaj</p>
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		<title>By: robina malik</title>
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		<dc:creator>robina malik</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 11 Jan 2008 19:18:36 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Assalam-o-Alakum brother and sisters in Islam,It is a fact that man and husbands abuse woman and their wives.I think the solutions is in woman&#039;s hand.She should teach true islamic values according to islam to their children.Make them just a good muslim and a human being.It is also depend our teacher  religous scholars to teach the new generation live as a human consider womans  equal in all aspect of life as well as a human.Do it with good hope Allah will take care of it later. With good wishes.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Assalam-o-Alakum brother and sisters in Islam,It is a fact that man and husbands abuse woman and their wives.I think the solutions is in woman&#8217;s hand.She should teach true islamic values according to islam to their children.Make them just a good muslim and a human being.It is also depend our teacher  religous scholars to teach the new generation live as a human consider womans  equal in all aspect of life as well as a human.Do it with good hope Allah will take care of it later. With good wishes.</p>
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		<title>By: Muhammad Bello</title>
		<link>http://www.iqrasense.com/muslim-character/muslim-women-and-cases-of-domestic-abuse.html/comment-page-1#comment-497</link>
		<dc:creator>Muhammad Bello</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 11 Jan 2008 16:41:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Assalamu alaikum,
Happy new hijra year, wishing us all Allah&#039;s blessings, guidance and protection.
In my oppinion, the need for these councelling centres does not arise. The traditions of our beloved prophet (saw) is examplary in the matter of handling domestic disputes and thus we are expected to follow those teachings and the prescribed injunctions in the holy quran. Accepted that two individuals living together could one day reach a point of no understanding in one matter or the other, but then, the Prophet SAW said &#039;the strongest among you is not who can beat 100 men but he who can control his heart (temper and wishes).
May Allah guide us to the straight path, the path of those who recieves his blessings, and not of those that deserves his anger, ameen. Have been married for eight years and cant remember being harsh even in words to my wife. Perhaps it is because I married the right woman who is meant to be my wife and she comes from a family with a cultured background? Or is it that we both came to the realization that a human being can only be 99% and never 100% and thus the need for patience and understanding of the filialities of the human being? Brothers and sisters in Islam, we are indeed a lucky lot if only we will adhere to the principles and teachings of our great religion, our perfect prophet (saw), and our pious leaders. Let us project a good image for the sake of Allah, we are the ambassadors of Islam wherever we may find ourselves. Bissallam.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Assalamu alaikum,<br />
Happy new hijra year, wishing us all Allah&#8217;s blessings, guidance and protection.<br />
In my oppinion, the need for these councelling centres does not arise. The traditions of our beloved prophet (saw) is examplary in the matter of handling domestic disputes and thus we are expected to follow those teachings and the prescribed injunctions in the holy quran. Accepted that two individuals living together could one day reach a point of no understanding in one matter or the other, but then, the Prophet SAW said &#8216;the strongest among you is not who can beat 100 men but he who can control his heart (temper and wishes).<br />
May Allah guide us to the straight path, the path of those who recieves his blessings, and not of those that deserves his anger, ameen. Have been married for eight years and cant remember being harsh even in words to my wife. Perhaps it is because I married the right woman who is meant to be my wife and she comes from a family with a cultured background? Or is it that we both came to the realization that a human being can only be 99% and never 100% and thus the need for patience and understanding of the filialities of the human being? Brothers and sisters in Islam, we are indeed a lucky lot if only we will adhere to the principles and teachings of our great religion, our perfect prophet (saw), and our pious leaders. Let us project a good image for the sake of Allah, we are the ambassadors of Islam wherever we may find ourselves. Bissallam.</p>
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		<title>By: Rabia in Canada</title>
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		<dc:creator>Rabia in Canada</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 10 Jan 2008 04:29:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Salam Alykom to all:
It pains me to even see the need of this blog being written but it is very important as abuse is there. Even when a good many people approach the masjid with ideas how to serve the community they are told there is not a need. They fob off the idea that many men are regularly beating their wives and children. (In no way am I not recognizing that there are men being bullied and abused as well.) The daughters grow to see this as acceptable treatment and the sons see it as part of married life. Many a Imam throws his hands up and say, &quot;What am I to do?&quot; At a time when we as a community are being watched by all do you not it think most important that is situation is brought under control? &#039;They&#039; are looking for any excuse to arrest Muslims and remove our children from our homes. The longterm impact of this is not being realized. To every brother that turns his eye blind when he knows a friend or family memeber is beating his wife will be equally held accountable on The Day. To the sisters who ignore it or even worse distance themselves when they see it happening, you shall be asked why. We need to apply pressure from within the community to fix this solution. This included providing support, funds and dealing with security issues. In addition Imams need to be supportive of the woman seeking divorce from a man that is abusing his wife and family. Telling her to only pray or be patient is not the response needed. Asking her what SHE is doing wrong on adds to the abuse. In fact that alone is abusive. Everyone needs to step up and put their foot down. The repeat offender needs to be identified so that he can&#039;t go from wife to wife and continue the behavior. Do it first for Allah and then second do it for you sisters, mothers, daughters and all other women you care for.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Salam Alykom to all:<br />
It pains me to even see the need of this blog being written but it is very important as abuse is there. Even when a good many people approach the masjid with ideas how to serve the community they are told there is not a need. They fob off the idea that many men are regularly beating their wives and children. (In no way am I not recognizing that there are men being bullied and abused as well.) The daughters grow to see this as acceptable treatment and the sons see it as part of married life. Many a Imam throws his hands up and say, &#8220;What am I to do?&#8221; At a time when we as a community are being watched by all do you not it think most important that is situation is brought under control? &#8216;They&#8217; are looking for any excuse to arrest Muslims and remove our children from our homes. The longterm impact of this is not being realized. To every brother that turns his eye blind when he knows a friend or family memeber is beating his wife will be equally held accountable on The Day. To the sisters who ignore it or even worse distance themselves when they see it happening, you shall be asked why. We need to apply pressure from within the community to fix this solution. This included providing support, funds and dealing with security issues. In addition Imams need to be supportive of the woman seeking divorce from a man that is abusing his wife and family. Telling her to only pray or be patient is not the response needed. Asking her what SHE is doing wrong on adds to the abuse. In fact that alone is abusive. Everyone needs to step up and put their foot down. The repeat offender needs to be identified so that he can&#8217;t go from wife to wife and continue the behavior. Do it first for Allah and then second do it for you sisters, mothers, daughters and all other women you care for.</p>
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		<title>By: Sa'idah  Sudan nee Sharif</title>
		<link>http://www.iqrasense.com/muslim-character/muslim-women-and-cases-of-domestic-abuse.html/comment-page-1#comment-493</link>
		<dc:creator>Sa'idah  Sudan nee Sharif</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 10 Jan 2008 02:21:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>As Salaamu Alaikum, I am an African American Muslim living in Newark, New Jersey.  I am the Founder and CEO of a domestic violence agency for Muslim and Non-Muslimah women.  I counsel Muslim, Jewish, Baptist and Christian women.  I counsel women of all faiths.  What I know for a fact is that domestic violence has not race or religion.  It happens to women and believe it or not, it happens to men as well, whom I&#039;ve counselled.  When we remain steadfast in du’ahs and mindful that women do not deserve to be physically abused for any reason, this Ummah will be a better Ummah with Allah (swt) grace. Please believe that there are men that are abused by women as well.  The statistics will not show as much men as their are women because the men will not come forward for fear of being labled.  Unfortunately, many Muslim men misinterpret Islamic law, including Hadith in which Prophet Muhammed (p.b.u.h.) permitted punishment of women physically in this life as it will be less painful than a disobedient wife’s punishment by Allah (s.w.t.) Even for those Muslim wives who are disobedient, for whatever reason and we can be at times, by whatever standard the husband determines that the disobedience occurred, the ‘beating’ permitted by Prophet Muhammed (p.b.u.h.) is a MOCK beating with an object no larger than a miswak, or a handful of grass, thereby symbolizing the husband’s displeasure without actually harming the wife but when we as women/men are ignorant to what our rights are and are not practing the Sunnah, we are in grave danger.  Allah (swt) says, IQRA, Read!  If we read and know what our laws are, men/women would not tolerate this behavior.  What we can do, is reach out, learn more about this deadly disease and education our Imams so when the women come to them, they are not lost for words.  I am in the process of training our Imams here in Essex County so that they are not lost for words and is able to guide the brothers back to Islam.  My agency is Baitul Hemayah, Newark, NJ, and am willing to help any Muslimah that needs counseling and/or training.  I can be reached at 908-875-5558.  As Salaamu Alaikum.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As Salaamu Alaikum, I am an African American Muslim living in Newark, New Jersey.  I am the Founder and CEO of a domestic violence agency for Muslim and Non-Muslimah women.  I counsel Muslim, Jewish, Baptist and Christian women.  I counsel women of all faiths.  What I know for a fact is that domestic violence has not race or religion.  It happens to women and believe it or not, it happens to men as well, whom I&#8217;ve counselled.  When we remain steadfast in du’ahs and mindful that women do not deserve to be physically abused for any reason, this Ummah will be a better Ummah with Allah (swt) grace. Please believe that there are men that are abused by women as well.  The statistics will not show as much men as their are women because the men will not come forward for fear of being labled.  Unfortunately, many Muslim men misinterpret Islamic law, including Hadith in which Prophet Muhammed (p.b.u.h.) permitted punishment of women physically in this life as it will be less painful than a disobedient wife’s punishment by Allah (s.w.t.) Even for those Muslim wives who are disobedient, for whatever reason and we can be at times, by whatever standard the husband determines that the disobedience occurred, the ‘beating’ permitted by Prophet Muhammed (p.b.u.h.) is a MOCK beating with an object no larger than a miswak, or a handful of grass, thereby symbolizing the husband’s displeasure without actually harming the wife but when we as women/men are ignorant to what our rights are and are not practing the Sunnah, we are in grave danger.  Allah (swt) says, IQRA, Read!  If we read and know what our laws are, men/women would not tolerate this behavior.  What we can do, is reach out, learn more about this deadly disease and education our Imams so when the women come to them, they are not lost for words.  I am in the process of training our Imams here in Essex County so that they are not lost for words and is able to guide the brothers back to Islam.  My agency is Baitul Hemayah, Newark, NJ, and am willing to help any Muslimah that needs counseling and/or training.  I can be reached at 908-875-5558.  As Salaamu Alaikum.</p>
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		<title>By: Sa'idah Sudan</title>
		<link>http://www.iqrasense.com/muslim-character/muslim-women-and-cases-of-domestic-abuse.html/comment-page-1#comment-492</link>
		<dc:creator>Sa'idah Sudan</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 10 Jan 2008 01:45:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>As Salaamu Alaikum, I am a Muslimah in the Newark, NJ who has a domestic violence center for Muslim and Non-Muslim women.  I have counselled on both sides, Muslim and Non-Muslim, Rich and Not so Rich, Black, White, Jewish and other religions.  I&#039;m not sure where the information came from that Muslim women are beat more than Non-Muslims.  Domestic violence does not have a religion nor does it have a color and abuse is abuse no matter how you look at it.  Allah has never hit or beat any of his wives.  This should be the example to all people which includes women as well.  Don&#039;t leave the women out, there are some women that are batterers as well.  The statistics does not show much about men because men don&#039;t talk much about their abuse.  The abuse of women is a universal phenomenon, irrespective of one’s religion.  One should not pick a particular religion without stats about all religions.  May Allah bless this Ummah and make it easy on all of us.  Amin.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As Salaamu Alaikum, I am a Muslimah in the Newark, NJ who has a domestic violence center for Muslim and Non-Muslim women.  I have counselled on both sides, Muslim and Non-Muslim, Rich and Not so Rich, Black, White, Jewish and other religions.  I&#8217;m not sure where the information came from that Muslim women are beat more than Non-Muslims.  Domestic violence does not have a religion nor does it have a color and abuse is abuse no matter how you look at it.  Allah has never hit or beat any of his wives.  This should be the example to all people which includes women as well.  Don&#8217;t leave the women out, there are some women that are batterers as well.  The statistics does not show much about men because men don&#8217;t talk much about their abuse.  The abuse of women is a universal phenomenon, irrespective of one’s religion.  One should not pick a particular religion without stats about all religions.  May Allah bless this Ummah and make it easy on all of us.  Amin.</p>
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